Wow – there are a lot of parenting styles out there… how do you know which is the right choice for you?
Finding your parenting style is a ongoing battle – not every baby is the same and babies are constantly changing… what works for some parents may or may not work for you. Don’t get discouraged if something works one day and not the next – sometimes your baby just wants to change their routine up and being fussy is their way of expressing this to you. I find I am constantly trying new things with Oliver to see what works. I look at myself as the “Winging – It” parent. I am willing to listen to peoples advice and perspectives – sometimes I take it other times I do what I feel is right…
How do you stop second guessing your choices?
As a mom I’ve been trying to stand my ground on what I believe to be right and wrong. I have a well rounded moral compass and I feel that as a mom I’m going to choose different routes than other parents at times and thats ok!
If your disscion is eating away at you and constantly making you second guess yourself – then I would consider looking at the pros and cons of the choice made and see if it still best suites your babies needs. If your ever worried and feel you do not fully understand your options – always ask a professional whether that be a pediatrician, obgyn, etc…
Is there a place where I can hear and learn about other parenting styles?
Yes there are couple different options …
- I found a great source to see what other moms my sons age were doing and experiencing was a facebook group. I was fortunate to have one in my area organized by a wonderful group of moms. With over 1000 members there is always someone who has a common perspective and there is always wonderful ideas shared.
- Your local library may offer mommy and me programs for tots under the age of 1. This is a great way to get out and meet people in a safe comfortable setting. Not only will your baby make friends there is the possibility of you finding someone new to converse with as well.
- Your local YMCA – often your local YMCA will offer mother classes (my local one offers a range of activities for new mothers from swimming to story-time.)
- Youtube – there are some wonderful parenting channels you can follow that discuss common issues and answer a lot of common questions.
I know I am not the perfect parent… but I am trying my best – just like you. One day our kids will all be older and we will look back and think – “why did I dwell so much on the little things?” Enjoy today and live each day to its full potential – ENJOY MOTHERHOOD!!!